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Here is your Weekly Relationship Contribution from GIVERS University. This short article is direct & to the point while containing some thought provoking considerations when thinking about the qualities within others. Enjoy with our compliments.
What sorts of people make the best remote employees? There’s one important quality you should look for — optimism. There’s a second quality you should avoid — people pleasing. Unfortunately, the two can seem very similar, and it’s sometimes hard to tell the difference between them.
Here’s why you want one and not the other, and how to tell them apart.
1. Why you should look for optimists.
2. Why you should avoid people-pleasers.
You never want someone who works for you to tell you only what you want to hear, whether he or she works remotely or onsite. But, Sutton says, in a remote work situation, it’s harder for a manager to tell whether an employee is feeling confident or concerned. For your company to be successful, remote employees must be willing and able to speak up when they think something is wrong.
A second, more subtle problem is that remote workers who are too intent on pleasing their bosses or co-workers could waste a lot of time and mental energy fretting about whether they are liked. Because remote work situations don’t allow for informal conversations, or for things like a colleague’s asking them out to lunch, remote workers can’t get many of the usual signals that would tell them who likes them and who doesn’t. To be effective, they need to be able to function well without those signals.
It can be tough to tell if someone is a people pleaser. For example, ask employees or prospective hires if they can meet a tight deadline, and they may answer, “You bet!” But are they being optimistic or are they telling you what they think you want to hear? It’s hard to know for sure. Once again, reviewing or discussing past jobs or projects might give you a clue. “I thought there would be a problem but I don’t like to make waves so I didn’t bring it up” could signal that you’re dealing with a people pleaser.
Sutton also recommends asking prospective remote workers straight out if they are people pleasers. Someone who simply answers no could be a curmudgeon and no fun to work with. So look for a more nuanced response, for example someone who says that they try to get along with everyone, but if they disagree with you on an important issue, they will make sure to say so as nicely as possible. That’s exactly the kind of remote employee you want.
By: Minda Zetlin, Co-Author, The Geek Gap @MindaZetlin
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